This is where it all started for me. On a chilly day in Autumn where two unlikely characters realized they had so much more in common than just a beautiful blonde.

I can’t even begin to explain how much this hurts. I was doing pretty well staying away from Dair vids and Dair scenes. But as soon as I see this, the hurt just comes crashing back. The last 40 seconds just destroyed me.

There is no rhyme or reason in explaining what the writers did. This fandom is too good and too smart for this show. Dair will always live on in my heart as one of the best relationships on tv.

The REAL Dan and Blair ended in the penultimate ep. and as far as I’m concerned they are still together and happy. This new Dan and Blair… they are complete strangers to me and I can’t bring myself to care about them.

Personal Audio Post Talking About Dair

be warned: it’s quite cheesy/heartfelt

The Five Stages of Mourning 

1. Denial and Isolation-deny the reality of the situation. It is a normal reaction to rationalize overwhelming emotions. It is a defense mechanism that buffers the immediate shock. We block out the words and hide from the facts. This is a temporary response that carries us through the first wave of pain.

2. Anger-As the masking effects of denial and isolation begin to wear, reality and its pain re-emerge. We are not ready. The intense emotion is deflected from our vulnerable core, redirected and expressed instead as anger.

3. Bargaining-The normal reaction to feelings of helplessness and vulnerability is often a need to regain control. Trying to reason and rationalize what happened and how it could have been prevented.

4. Depression-Two types of depression are associated with mourning. The first one is a reaction to practical implications relating to the loss. Sadness and regret predominate.The second type of depression is more subtle and, in a sense, perhaps more private. It is our quiet preparation to separate and to bid farewell.

5. Acceptance-Reaching this stage of mourning is a gift not afforded to everyone.This phase is marked by withdrawal and calm. This is not a period of happiness and must be distinguished from depression.

The End of Dair and Future of the Fandom 

In so many ways the sadness and realization of last night’s events is just starting to hit me.

I can’t believe that Dair is over.

And even if they aren’t, it looks like they will never, ever be what they were and what we hoped for them. The two things that could have broken this fandom happened in the most unexpected and callous way possible.

Dan slept with Serena and Blair went back to Chuck.

In no way were any of us even aware that this would happen. I never thought Dan would do something like that nor that Blair would go against EVERYTHING she has been saying for the past arc and run back to Chuck. Fans didn’t even get a proper closure scene for Dair.

I am angry at the writers, frustrated with the characters, and sad for this entire fandom. This fandom who saw Dan and Blair’s history as this intense buildup to a lasting romance. We don’t deserve this. No fandom deserves to be treated like this. Yes, we have the good memories, but it is so unfair that GG threw away so much potential in the blink of an eye!

I really hoped that Dair would be endgame. I wanted to believe in the buildup and that Dair is what the writers wanted all along, but they dashed my hopes and made my worst nightmare come true.

I love this fandom and am curious to see who sticks around to watch the shortened sixth season. I will probably watch from a distance only tuning in to see Dair scenes. After all, I still need to finish my “Top 30 Dair Moments” for 2012. Dair was great for what it was. They were perfect intellectually, romantically and in every other healthy way possible.

While my blog will still pay homage to Dair, other shows will probably take precedence. I won’t unfollow any of my fellow Dair blogs. Because the best thing I got out of shipping Dair were the people I met and beautiful blogs I found.

I still support you all no matter what you decide to blog about next.

I hope that I can be there for you guys as many of you are changing urls and sidebar gifs and just having to re-do entire blogs in general. I too will be changing my theme at some point this week.(It hurts too much to keep it how it is)

Some people will continue to be active in the fandom, writing fan fiction and creating Dair gifs, others will shut Dair and GG out entirely. But I hope we can all look back at the time we have spent shipping this couple, and remember it fondly.

Remember it as a time that we were able to find community with people to appreciate one of the best ships ever. To laugh with and cry about. To gif and write about. To vote for and debate about. A time when so many people came together to support a couple that held so much hope and promise. No matter the outcome, we all found each other.

It is hard to let go, but I hope we can all move on together.

“Wait, do you feel that?” — “Uh…”

Mini rant/opinion about Dan and the GG finale 

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So just in case the worst happens… 

This is a really great dair fanfic in which Dan cheats on Blair w/ Serena. Be warned, it’s very angsty, but the ending makes me smile every time.